mwilson's Blog

Your love for them will help you cope. Take advantage of the love they have shown for each other, and you, it can only make you stronger. Lean on friends and family. Turn to God, give him your grief and allow him to comfort you.

Something that helped us during my Father's terminal illness was to record conversations with him. Some of the time he knew he was being recorded, sometimes not. We got some wonderful stories, memories, thoughts. We got him singing some of his favorite George Jones songs....he loved his country music! These will be passed down so his great grandchildren can get to know a little about the man that loved all of us so very much.

My prayers are with you and your family.

You cry, you lean on your family (cause they're the only ones who really understand), and you pray.
And you ALWAYS tell your grampies you love them, even when they don't know who you are.

Their soul will hear you.

I'm sorry. I know this is a VERY tough time. I was extremely close with my grandparents especially my grandmother (she was TRULY an amazing woman. The kindest person I EVER met). I lost both of them in 2003. They were married for more than 70 years and died 2 weeks apart. It's still hard sometimes not to be able to talk to them. Prayer will help you through. Also just try to focus on all the wonderful times and memories you've shared with them. God bless you and your family today and everyday.

I look at it as they will be in a much better place and will never be apart. It's like Damali said about her grandparents. One passed away and the other 2 weeks later. Sometimes it seems it's planned that way by God just so they can be together. No matter if they know you as the end gets nearer you can still look in their eyes and remember all the great times you had while growing up around grandparents who love you so much.

I had grandparents such as this also and spent many days and nights with them. When my grandfather died it really hurt but he hadn't been gone lone when my grandmother died. I really believed she grieved herself to death after being together for so many years.

I know God will bless you and your family and get you through this heart breaking time. I will pray for you and your family every day.

Jeff is dealing with this but his father lives so far away. He started a new job and can't take vacation until October and I'm already asking him if he wants to go visit. His dad has Alzheimer's and he just heard Sunday it has gotten worse. His dad will be 87 this month. Every time now he leaves the house he stops at the end of their long driveway in the Berkshire Mountains and cries before he gets on the road for the airport because he wonders if that is the last time he will see his dad alive. While his brothers and sisters are having a hard time dealing with the disability itself, Jeff finds a lot of similarities to some of his father's behavior as Patrick's. He was teaching his mother some applied behavioral analysis while on his last trip and his mother saw how doing that changed his dad's behavior.

I wish I had written down some of the stories my grandmother told before she died. With both my parents gone, I don't have too many links with my past anymore. I will have to pass on the history of our family to my sister's children as it doesn't matter to Patrick with his disability, he won't be having children of his own unless there is some miraculous cure for autism, and my other sister never had children. I've been trying to write down my rather weird family history in the form of a book because as I age, the memories I find are fading from me about stories I used to remember.