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Moms these days!!??
Jul 11, 2008 | 8:37 AM
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Was at a local shopping center the other day with my two angels, and a friend of my oldest's, both 4, and noticed a fellow mother doing her best to maintain sanity while grocery shopping with her children, those of you who are mothers know what I mean.  Anyway, this woman in question had 4 children ranging in age from about 3 - 12 yrs old.  The older two, about 10 and 12, were drinking out of sippy cups, wha???  The middle one, about 5 had a bottle and a pacifier??  Really, is this what we've come to??  I could not believe what I was seeing, this woman was obviously too afraid of a little screaming and retaliation from her own kids to put her foot down.  I'm a pretty firm believer in being a parent and not a friend to my girls, my oldest lost the bottle at around 18 months and the pacifier was gone by 8 months.  Why do American mothers allow their children to walk all over them like this?? 
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Wonderful-World read my blog view my photos
Jul 11, 2008 | 10:49 AM

Perhaps they were children with special needs?
hereandnow read my blog
Jul 11, 2008 | 2:34 PM

I was behind them in line for about 15 min. They were acting like any other child in that age range, bickering, gossiping....you know the drill, that was actually the first excuse I was thinking of.
Gottaluvit read my blog view my photos
Jul 11, 2008 | 4:01 PM

They DO have special needs. A special need for an open can of Whoopa$$.
juststop read my blog
Jul 11, 2008 | 6:39 PM

In a lot of families now days the raising of children has become a "hobby" - not a life's work. This extraordinary and magnificent undertaking should be treated with awe, our full attention, upmost patience and CONSISTENCY.
To consistently teach your child that there are boundaries and rules and the breaking of these will not be tolerated requires energy and a strong will. Some parents are not consistent - too tired, avoidance of conflict, etc..... These are the parents who breed insecurity in their child. (boundaries provide a child with a sense of safety) Insecure, unhappy children act out. And the vicious cycle continues.
Sassy11 read my blog
Jul 11, 2008 | 10:20 PM

I see and hear what you are saying. This is truly an outrageous epidemic that spans ALL cultures in this country. People are refusing to be parents. It is pathetic and totally outrageous to those of us who have brought our children up. Goodness, you cannot give the child EVERYTHING the child wants. I could write a book on the sights I've witnessed. It is totally outrageous, baffling and perplexing to those of us who know that good parenting skills go a long way. I do know that children want to have guidelines. People cannot give in to every whim and fancy, this creates extremely dependant spoiled children. Those spoiled children grow up to be a burden upon society. So good grief people, get your pompous selves together and be a PARENT!
beaware27 read my blog
Jul 12, 2008 | 7:03 PM

I believe the problem is more and more 'parents' are still very young and do not see all the responsabilities good parents have, rather they see the inconveniences they had in their childhoods and over look the value of these lessons. As a result, their children were shown in this mannar and continue to act in this mannar. It is a pitty that this circle is liable to continue.
Skyder read my blog view my photos
Jul 14, 2008 | 8:47 AM

The problem is that a lot of people have the mentality that whatever happened to them as children, they have vowed "I'll never raise MY children that way", and this is where it's gotten us. Personally, I have NO problem with the way I was raised, and it is good enough for my children now.
mik1of3 read my blog view my photos
Jul 15, 2008 | 1:31 PM

Um, I'm 43 and my daughter is 11, and we still use sippy cups, mainly at night.
Why?
Cause we have two cats who think it's their sole mission in life to knock over any glass that's upright...and they don't care whether its empty or not. Nothing will wake me up faster than the sound of a glass spilling liquid at 3:30am...unless its the sound of an animal vomiting.
We also still use sippy cups in the car. That way BLEEP doesn't get spilled on my floor boards or my seats. We're not special needs either...just clumsy.
And maybe the older kids thought they were being cute, or maybe they just like them. Frankly, if all my kid does that people think is wrong is drink out of a sippy cup, then I'm ok with that.

Really, if it isn't hurting you, why should you care?
hereandnow read my blog
Aug 1, 2008 | 3:19 PM

I CARE BECAUSE I'm worried there are so few mothers left that set boundries for their children, sippy cups at 11 is ridiculous!!! Aren't our jobs as parents to teach our children how be resbonsible functioning members of society? What kind of leaders to my children have to look forward to when their next co-worker, boss, even president was coddled to the point of pussification. Maybe I was confused about that, I didn't think babying them until the age of 18, then sending them off into the world with no knowledge of limits or acceptable adult behavior was what I was suppossed to be working so hard at. But then again, babying them is easier than telling them NO, maybe I should take up your concept of parenting it seems a lot less stressful.
hereandnow read my blog
Aug 1, 2008 | 3:22 PM

By the way Mik, if your child cannot have a drink in the car without spilling it, why don't you NOT ALLOW DRINKS IN THE CAR UNTIL HE OR SHE LEARNS HOW TO BE RESBONSIBLE WITH THEM, THERES A THOUGHT!!! Bet they'd learn real quick.
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27 yr old, married mom of 2 little girls, 4yr old and 6 month old. Animal lover and activist. I despise the liberal movement and the socialist agenda young americans have turned it into. Just your typical girl clinging to her bible and guns, you know, because I'm of limited mental capacity...

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